How to Deal With Haters
It never used to be much of a problem but in the past few years, so many of us have gone online and put much of our personal lives ‘out there’ via various social media sites. This immediately introduces the issue of polarization because, no matter what you say or do, somebody will either disagree or hate you for it.
If you make a big success of your life, somebody will hate you for it. If you wind up broke and depressed, somebody will hate you for it. You will be hated for your religious beliefs, color of your skin or where you live. So, let’s just agree to agree that you can’t win in some peoples eyes.
So this leaves us with a choice. Do we have to justify our life and life choices to others, do we have to spend our valuable time convincing them that we are right to have done what we did or think what we think? I’d say not. I’ve spent too many hours arguing my point online, backing up my opinion with facts and case studies but what is the point? I’ve tried to explain to the guy on benefits that we both had the same chances but I worked my ass off, read 1000 books and took massive action to get where I am now but will he really hear me? I think you know the answer.
So we come to my point. Forget trying to justify anything to anyone. As Tony Robbins says, “Never argue or explain.”
Word.
Have fun.
Paul Browning
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I agree with this philosophy. I do not think anyone should have to justify their life choices simply because others have a different opinion. But then, if you did not put it out there, it would not get the chance to be judged.
There is such a thing as disagreeing without being disagreeable. It’s a lost art, I believe.
I decided to ignore such comments. Haters will always hate, no matter what I say in opposite. Better pay attention to the people who support your actions. Their opinion is much more valuable.
A few years ago, I was regular at a local internet forum. I live in the small town and we all know who is behind which nickname. Sometimes we were writing there things that we did not dare in real life and it was such a relief.
I wish that life has options just like Twitter. Wouldn’t it be nice to mute annoying people? 🙂
I try not to waste my time explaining the obvious. When I hear “you’re right, BUT …” I end every conversation on the subject.
I have a major hater in my office. Just like what others are saying, ignore them. Would you actually allow the person who is mad about the weather or a TV show to mess up your mood??
That’s cool! 🙂 But sometimes I feel I can spend entire day just arguing with those people. Actually, it could be a great therapy 🙂 Lol… I’m just kidding 🙂
We can’t please everyone here on earth, so I guess just stick with the people who appreciate everything in you and just ignore those people who hate you.
I agree with you @Aria C. ! The more you are giving them attention, focus on nurturing your relationship with the deserving people.
A good read! You are absolutely right. We have to dance like nobody’s watching and live each day. It’s just so frustrating when people always have something negative to say to just about anything.
The picture says it all – Haters gonna hate! Live life to the fullest 🙂
Right on spot, Paul. People will always have something to say. “Never argue or explain.”
I have always wanted to please everyone. Disappointing others seem to be one of my biggest fears. But them I realized, I cannot live for them or for other people’s expectations. We have to keep on moving and this article is very helpful. We don’t justify our life and life choices to others as we are the ones who suffer when we are not happy with decisions chosen because of them. There will always be haters everywhere. Yes, Paul. You are right — Have Fun. Great read! Thanks a lot!
Thank you for this post. So true! I am an online marketer myself and it’s funny that there a handful of people who just don’t “like me”..for whatever reason. The more peculiar thing though is each of these haters has come to me at some point and asked me to launch their product to my list and because I care about my list–I turned them down = automatic haters apparently.
I wonder if these same people were to meet with me face-to-face if they’d have the same opinion. lol. At first I was trying really hard to justify my point—but now–nope. Those people are energy drainers and I prefer to give that energy instead to helping my loyal fans and followers.